Free Dating For Dummies 2nd Edition, Dr. Joy Browne

Dating makes everybody feel like a dummy, whether you’re 15 or 115, going out on your first date or rejoining the dating scene after your grandkids have started dating. “It’s still the same old story” — as sung by Dooley Wilson in Casablanca — “a search for love and glory,” and there really are some fundamental things that do apply. I lay them all out for you, not so that you can be a stud muffin or the hottest kid on the block, but so that you can understand a bit more about yourself, your date to be, and the whole process. Then maybe the old palms will sweat less, and believe it or not, you
may actually have some fun.
After all, dating should be fun. It’s not like your whole life or livelihood depends on one date or several dates. The purpose of dating is simple: getting to know someone and letting them get to know you so that you can decide whether you’re interested in spending any more time together. Nothing more, nothing less. Put aside the notion that you’re looking for a mate or a one-night stand or someone to please your mom. You’re just dating so that you can get to know somebody a bit and let them get to know you.
So what are the ironclad follow-these-steps-and-you’ll-never-fail, step-on-acrack- and-you’ll-break-your-mother’s-back rules of dating? They don’t exist. There are some guidelines, suggestions, and observations, but this whole experience is a bit free form since you’re unique and so is everyone you’ll
ever date. So this book is about helping you understand who you are, what you want — some commonly held assumptions, traits, and perils that will allow you to be exactly the person you are. That way, if you’re having fun and your date is having fun, you’re going to want to do it again.
So why such sweaty palms if this is supposed to be fun? Men and women have been getting together for thousands of years after all. No, it’s not because you’re the nerd of the universe, and everybody else is way cool. It’s because the way people date — their expectations and assumptions and goals — have changed with the times.
Adam and Eve were the original blind date (and we know who fixed them up). It’s been a lot rockier ever since (ever wonder who Cain and Abel dated?). In the caves, dating was mostly who had the biggest club (no, not that club) and could carry off the choice woman. I don’t think flowers and candy played a very big part. A few eons passed, and we moved from caves and plains to
hamlets to villages to towns to cities, and our courting rituals evolved, but still dating really wasn’t allowed. Marriages were arranged by families for political and economic reasons. Not only did women have no say, but neither did the men.

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